Body-oriented trauma therapy for children of a narcissistic mother
Based on my own personal experience, the path of my own healing, my subsequent specialization and many sessions with children of a narcissistic mother, I have developed an intensive therapy program.
This therapy program is specially tailored to the needs of children of narcissistic mothers.
Narcissistic abuse, as a special form of emotional abuse - and yes, it is abuse - especially when experienced in childhood, leaves deep traces in the soul of the daughters and sons of a narcissistic mother and therefore requires a complex, trauma-based therapeutic approach that covers all affected areas.
Those affected often feel misunderstood and not taken seriously by therapists who have no expertise in the area of narcissism or trauma.
I know how it feels.
I know how it leaves you feeling.
I know what it does to you.
But I also know that healing is possible.
The most important facts in brief
- Alternative to talk therapy: My body-oriented trauma therapy approach for children of a narcissistic mother is based on the emotional release and processing of emotional injuries
- My therapy includes methods such as Neo-Emotional-Release®, working with the inner child, Journey-Method®, breathing techniques, trauma release, somatic exercises, therapeutic and activating touch
- I offer you a safe space in which you can begin to feel the suppressed emotions again. What you can feel, you can process. What you can feel, you can heal.
How I work with children of a narcissistic mother in therapy
In my practice, I do not work with talk therapy, but with a multi-layered, trauma-based approach that addresses the core: the repressed emotions and emotional injuries
- Emotional Release: feel your suppressed emotions with the profound Neo Emotional Release® method by David Manning and the powerful Journey® method by Brandon Bays
- Working with your inner child
- Trauma Release
- Somatic exercises
- Resources
- Breathwork/breathing techniques
- We work on your self-expression / you learn to express your truth again / set boundaries
- you learn how to build self-love and self-esteem
- you transform your negative beliefs and convictions in your subconscious
- Therapeutic and activating touch (only for on-site sessions)
Talking about my problem didn't help me
Talking about my problem in talk therapy didn't help me. I realized very quickly that I needed something other than talking about my problem. Something more profound that would get to the root of the emotional wounds.
What happened when you were injured as a child?
The moment you were hurt as a child - if you had a narcissistic mother, this happened many times - and you were alone at the mercy of the emotions associated with the event and had no emotional support to catch you, you put the fear, the powerlessness, the shame, the powerlessness, the sadness, the anger in a box, locked the box and pushed it into a dark corner because you were simply overwhelmed by the emotions.
You have split off parts of yourself
The next time you were hurt, you grabbed the next box, and another and another. Each box contains certain emotions and the wounded part of you that you have split off. Each of these boxes represents a container that holds a specific trauma.
You do everything you can to ensure that these boxes remain closed at all costs. The contents of these boxes must not come out under any circumstances.
The more boxes you have packed, the more you have lost your connection to yourself, to life.
If you have experienced a large number of such micro-injuries, this is called developmental trauma.
That goes deep. Very deep.
You can find detailed information on the topic of suppressing feelings here.
What happens if you have packed a lot of boxes
To ensure that the boxes stay closed, your subconscious has created survival strategies, behaviors that automatically kick in when the lid of a box opens or is in danger of opening. These are all unconscious behaviors,
- with which you distract yourself, no matter what
- where you are on autopilot
- Perfectionism
- you help, do and do everything for others, but not for yourself
- you shy away from conflict,
- you are always the good one,
- you are over-adapted,
- you try to earn love and recognition
- you have taken refuge in your head and always have to think and analyze everything
- you develop addictions
- Circles of thought
- You have lost your voice
- You have lost yourself
- And many many more
You can find very detailed examples of the massive long-term consequences of a narcissistic mother here.
In classic talk therapy, the boxes you have packed are not touched, in my experience.
Do you want to free yourself from the consequences of your narcissistic mother?
In my Emotional Release Sessions we work on the root, your emotional wounds, you learn to take care of your wounded inner children and heal them bit by bit.
Emotions are stored in the body
In my experience, when we don't feel emotions but put them in boxes, the emotions are stored in our body, in our tissue, muscles, fascia, organs, glands, etc. If we suppress emotions over many years or even decades, the tissue contracts chronically. This then feels like
- The stone on your chest
- The lump in the stomach
- The lump in the throat
- The tightness in the chest
- The twinge in your stomach
- The enormous burden on your shoulders
What you can feel, you can heal
When we feel emotions in a healthy way, they don't get stuck inside us, they can simply flow through us.
We lost this ability as a child when no one was there for us emotionally.
In therapy for children of a narcissistic mother, you slowly feel your way towards your boxes with my support in a safe environment. You lift the lid and start to feel what is spilling out.
You feel and process with your body, not with your head.
So talking did not help me.
You can learn to feel again - step by step
You can gradually learn to feel again, to feel and process what you couldn't feel as a child because it overwhelmed you and you had no support.
Now you have support.
Nothing can happen to you NOW.
My personal experience as well as the experience from my many years of daily practice with many therapy sessions with children of a narcissistic mother, shows that if we can release suppressed feelings and feel emotions again in a healthy and natural way, we can process them, we can heal.
By feeling in a safe environment, in a safe space, we lose our fear of emotions over time and can gradually allow them to return.
Emotions lose their terror because your nervous system learns that it is okay to feel fear, anger, sadness and powerlessness.
Bit by bit, the emotions, words and images that have long been suppressed can slowly emerge again and be felt, expressed and spoken.
In emotional release therapy, we do not remove emotions. Instead, you change your relationship to the emotions and the experience over time. Your body gradually learns that nothing will happen to you if you feel this now.
Feeling emotions again in a healthy way is a life skill that will stay with you for the rest of your life.
Trauma healing is a process and not a quick fix.
Your inner child wants to heal
Your inner children are all the younger versions of you that have been hurt.
In the therapy and coaching sessions I conduct for children of a narcissistic mother, you get back in touch with the little inner child who has experienced all the hurt. The inner child is given a voice in the therapy sessions, a voice that it may never have had. It feels what it has been unable to feel for decades. It is allowed to say what it has not been allowed or able to say for decades.
Working with the inner child has played an essential role in my own healing.
My heart's desire: To accompany you as a child of a narcissistic mother with emotional release therapy
A narcissistic mother leaves deep traces and consequences in the lives of her children. From my own deep understanding, I will hold the space for you if you are ready to face your emotional wounds and seek something other than talk therapy.
In the FAQ you will find the process of a session and many answers about my Emotional Release sessions.
I am happy to support you from the bottom of my heart on your way home to yourself. Alive. Free. Authentic.
Stefanie Heinlein
I am an expert on narcissism, healing practitioner & mentor. My mission: emotional release & working with the subconscious mind. I supported people to free themselves from the shackles of their emotional hurts and traumas, and related repressed emotions and patterns, regardless of the cause. My particular area of heart and specialization is supporting women in releasing their narcissistic trauma so that they can once again live a self-determined life with self-love, self-worth and self-confidence.
